In times of stress, community is very important. Knowing we have support and people who care can reduce stress and make life lots more fun.

And we want you to make aware and thoughtful decisions.

After discussions with other community leaders and evaluating options, we will NOT be running in-person Events at The Intimacy Dojo until close interaction is safer. We will be staying in touch with current developments and will let you know if anything changes.

We think it’s important that you take care of yourself.  We will be running virtual events to help you connect and stay in touch.

Once we start running in-person events again, if you don’t feel well, or might have been exposed to illness, please do not attend. Let me know and I will issue a refund.

You can email me at

If you have questions or ideas you’re welcome to reach out by email.

Warm hugs to all that want them!








I am leaving this event protocol in place in the hopes that we’ll be able to use it again in the near future.

Coronavirus-2 Protocols -with thanks and gratitude to Bonobo Tribe & William Winters/Misha Bonaventura for compiling this creative commons report.

TLDR; Don’t come to our events if you’re sick, wash your hands basically all the time, sanitize surfaces, evaluate your personal risk and act accordingly, and whatever you do, don’t panic!

First, we don’t want to create any unnecessary alarm. Right now, there are few indications that most of us are at immediate risk of contracting coronavirus. The overwhelming majority of us who do contract it will have only mild symptoms, and getting a flu shot (to reduce the influenza-related hospitalizations as coronavirus spreads) is still one of the most important, communitarian things we can do right now.

However, with news emerging of potential community transmission around the Bay Area, Seattle, and elsewhere, we believe that now is the time to begin acting with an abundance of caution to slow the spread of the virus.

Please read up on the virus, and make sure you’re reading reputable sources. This well-researched coronavirus explainer from Vox provides a good overview of what you need to know, though it’s important to remember that the situation is changing rapidly, and you should follow local news sources and the advice of local health care institutions to learn more about the local situation.

Finally, gratitude to our friends at Organ House, who led the way with a community safety plan addressing this emerging infection.

SARS-Coronavirus-2 Protocols by William Winters and Misha Bonaventura is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-ShareAlike 4.0 International License. Anyone is welcome to use and duplicate this information for your own organization. Please apply attribution when appropriate to Bonobo Tribe & William Winters/Misha Bonaventura.

  1. Do not attend The Intimacy Dojo events if you have had cold- or flu-like symptoms or stomach upset within 48 hours of the event.

Just let us know that you’re experiencing symptoms and we’ll happily refund your ticket price, no questions asked. Email

Rationale: Approximately 80% of COVID-19 cases present in ways that make it hard to distinguish from a common cold or the flu (incidentally, one shouldn’t attend The Intimacy Dojo parties with these illnesses, either.) From the Journal of the American Medical Association:

The most common symptoms at onset of illness were fever (136 [98.6%]), fatigue (96 [69.6%]), dry cough (82 [59.4%]), myalgia [muscle pain – WWIII] (48 [34.8%]), and dyspnea [difficulty breathing – WWIII] (43 [31.2%]). Less common symptoms were headache, dizziness, abdominal pain, diarrhea, nausea, and vomiting (Table 1). A total of 14 patients (10.1%) initially presented with diarrhea and nausea 1 to 2 days prior to development of fever and dyspnea .

If symptoms are beginning to present for any of these infections, then you’ve likely already been asymptomatically contagious for at least a day or two already, and possibly as long as two weeks.

Sources: Centers for Disease Control, JAMA

  1. Wash your hands upon arriving at a party and frequently thereafter.

After checking in and putting your personal items away, the first thing you’ll do when arriving at a party is wash your hands and wrists for at least 20 seconds using soap and water.

Please continue to wash your hands frequently throughout the event, especially after contacting surfaces and before and after physical contact with others.

Wash your hands before interacting with the food or beverage areas.

If you do cough or sneeze, do it into the crook of your elbow or a facial tissue, not your hands.

Rationale: Touching our hands to our faces (nose, mouth, and eyes) is one of the most significant vectors of transmitting respiratory illnesses to ourselves and one another. Keeping our hands clean is therefore a pivotal way to care for ourselves and one another. Coronavirus is killed by soap and water or alcohol-based hand sanitizer. Washing one’s hand and body after potential exposures is a low-friction way to help limit the spread of coronavirus and other infectious agents. Evidence shows that increasing handwashing even a small amount can have a huge impact on limiting the spread of a disease. Viruses get around by hitching a ride on droplets from our mouths and noses when we cough, sneeze, talk, or breathe. Sneezing or coughing into our elbows is a best practice for limiting transmission

Sources: Centers for Disease Control, Medical News Today

  1. Sanitize surfaces

The Intimacy Dojo’s cleaning volunteers will also sanitize common surfaces (table tops, door handles, and bathroom counters) using disinfectant cleaner throughout the venue hourly.

Rationale: Coronavirus can live on metal, glass, or plastic surfaces for up to 9 days, and for varying lengths of time on other materials. Sanitizing surfaces using common disinfectants that are also in line with the venue’s chemical sensitivity policy is an easy way to reduce risk of spread.

Sources: Centers for Disease Control, Journal of Hospital Infection, CNN

  1. Evaluate your personal risk

The Intimacy Dojo isn’t aware of the health status of all of our members, but because our members are comprised of a wide cross-section people, it’s important that we all evaluate our health risk and participate in parties and similar events with our risk in mind.

Coronavirus presents greater risk of severe disease for elderly folks than younger folks; for those with compromised immune systems; people who have diabetes or chronic cardiovascular diseases. If you are a part of one of these populations, or have frequent exposure to these populations through work or family members, consider taking reasonable precautions against getting sick — your well-being is paramount. Those reasonable precautions may well include avoiding the risk of unnecessary exposures at large gatherings.

Sources: The Hill

  1. Don’t Panic

Don’t panic. Don’t spread misinformation. Be sure that your information about COVID-19 is coming from reputable scientific or government sources. Spreading misinformation and baseless conspiracy theories is dangerous and irresponsible, as it makes it harder for us to protect one another and ourselves. Call it out when you see it, and demand reputable sourcing of claims. This should go without saying, but definitely don’t be racist towards people of Asian descent.

Let’s have fun AND do what we can to take care of ourselves,  The Intimacy Dojo community, and our folks in the wider Bay Area!