Cathy: Some people end up being friends with everyone they're interested with romantically. It doesn't ever quite transition to romantic. They end up being buddies. That can be really frustrating. Reid: The friend zone. Cathy: Yes. It can be very frustrating. What would you do, Reid Mihalko, from http://wwwReidAboutSex.com? Reid: I don't know, Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. What would I do? What a weird segue. Being stuck in the friend zone. [...]
Reid: Hi, I'm Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Reid: Yeah, and today we're going to talk about reframing fighting. Cathy: It's really powerful because in our society, we do have a tendency ... Reid: Whatever. Cathy: To have discussions that are ... one of us has to win and I'm going to beat him up until he gives in or his going to give me the cold [...]
Cathy: We had someone write in to us and say that their partner is wanting them to try things in bed that they don't really know they want to try. They're not really sure and ... Reid: Like eating cookies in bed? Cathy: Yeah. I'm sure that was it. Reid: That's crummy. Cathy: Oh my god. Reid: I'm Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com Cathy: I am Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and I am so [...]
Cathy: Someone else wrote in to us and said my boyfriend is going through my email and my phone. He's snooping. What can I do, it makes me really uncomfortable? Reid: Shhh, he may be listening in right now. Cathy: That's really uncomfortable when someone's going through your stuff. Reid: I'm uncomfortable just filming this video. Are they watching? Hey behind you! I'm Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: I'm Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. [...]
Cathy: How do you know when she has an orgasm, so you know when to stop? Someone wrote in asking about that and I love that the person wants to know more. There is a lot of pressure I think in our society to know when the person had an orgasm or not. Reid: Our society is very orgasm-centric. Cathy: You supposed to do the orgasm then you're done. Reid: Yeah, because now we [...]
Cathy: Have you found that your relationship might be a little stagnant? Or that you're not growing as fast as you would like? Reid: What? I thought everything was fine. What are you telling me? Cathy: Actually, digging into some of the deeper stuff in your relationship, having the conversations that you don't normally have, can help you both grow. It can also deepen your relationship. Reid: That sounds scary. Cathy: It is, sometimes. [...]
Cathy: Someone wrote in and asked, she said she's interested in a married man and she doesn't know what to do. Reid: Mmmhmmmm ... Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from ... Reid: I'm going to assume that that man's not married to her. Cathy: No, he's not. Reid: Mmmhmmm ... Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com Cathy: What would you suggest? Reid: Mmhmmm ... Well, well, well, you had to come [...]
Cathy: Does he love me? How can I tell? Someone wrote in and asked us that question the other day. It's a great question. And this is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and I'm Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and apparently, we've killed him, so I'll just do this talk without him. Reid: Oh, let me count the ways. How do you tell? Have you asked? Cathy: Yeah, talking about it can ... Reid: Excuse [...]
Reid: Hi this is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com Reid: You use this phrase "tuning" to somebody. Please explain for our viewers. Your esoteric languaging. Cathy: Yes, OK. Well, there's two levels you can do that at: 1) you can communicate with your partner and understand what ... you have them explain verbally what they would like to do. Reid: Mm-hmm. Cathy: What turns them on, what stimulates them. And so you [...]
Cathy: What do you do when your partner cheats on you? Reid: I get angry, that's what I do. Cathy: Thank you. That was so helpful Reid Mihalko from http://www.Reidaboutsex.com. Reid: Awesome. You're welcome Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: It can be really devastating to be cheated on. There's a trust that's been broken. Cheating and having open-relationships are different things. Cheating implies that there was an agreement that this wouldn't happen or a [...]
