Using Your Forearms While Making Love with Someone…
Cathy: So during deep dive that you were teaching, you…
Reid: It’s called the Sex 10x Deep Dive Cathy which is the whole title. I don’t say Cathy from the intimacy, I say Cathy from https://theintimacydojo.com/
Cathy: Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/. You were talking about using your forearms as an extra set of hands and I think that’s, I love it when people do that and I wanted to have you share that with our viewers, our intrepid viewers.
Reid: You mean like, using it like this?
Cathy: They can’t see, oh drinking more coffee is
Reid: Like using extra set of hands like that?
Cathy: During sex I think is what we’re talking about since it was
Reid: We’re drinking coffee during sex? What?
Cathy: It was the Sex 10x Deep Dive and you were talking about using your forearms as an extra set of hand.
Reid: Show me. I don’t remember Cathy.
Reid: See if Cathy remembers the lesson
Cathy: So a lot of people they’re using their hands and their mouth
Cathy: But they’re not using their whole body
Cathy: They’re using, they can use their forearms to like add pressure and.. and
Reid: To create connection until you
Cathy: And to extend
Reid: To use their body weight to lean in
Reid: and push on people
Reid: Why is that useful?
Cathy: Well, one it gives more. Your so [Inaudible 00:01:09]
Reid: Making her teach. Teach Cathy, teach!
Cathy: You’re just seeing if I paid attention. No you can use. It’s extra skin contact and you can actually do more you can put more pressure and some areas that like it sometimes than just with your hands if your hands are getting tired it’s also a nice way to and it’s a different texture
Cathy: it’s a different feeling as you go you can get that nice long like if you’re going over a body part that likes that watch out for bones you don’t want to put a lot of pressure like this bone against their bones but
Reid: Yeah. It’s also a way for I mean again like for some people they can only push so hard with their hands when you use your forearms to lean on your partner’s body or to kind of pin them up against the wall the.. Your forearms
Cathy: Or hold their thighs apart
Reid: Yeah, your forearms can work really well for these reasons because, because creating pressure and giving your partner more contact and something they can push against will help a lot of people get into their bodies use their pelvic floor muscles to tug on all the good erectile fun nerve endings inside your pelvis especially when you’re getting aroused and that contact can feel very connected right rather than if you’re trying to touch your lover just with the tips of your thumbs and then pushing against you
Cathy: Why are you doing that?
Reid: It can all feel very poky, right?
Reid: It’s, it’s understanding that there’s so much more and many different ways to use your body to augment the experience and then there’s the thing of like sometimes I want to be close to my lover and touching them but me being on top holding plank position, you know or in a push-up position is really difficult and I can kiss you from this distance. So here I can use my arms and, and kind of lean into you if that works for your body as a way of also kind of holding myself up.
Reid: And I’m close enough to kiss like there’s all these different things that you can do when you start using your forearms as a means of connecting and touching and caressing and pushing pressure and also keep yourself erect because I can create pressure on you in different ways and not have to have my full body weight on you.
Cathy: Alright. And also for people that are bigger if you use just your forearm, you can just if they have a belly in this.. in the way of where you want to go you can just gently push it push it away with your forearm.
Cathy: You’ve then… you have access to what you [Inaudible 00:03:53]
Reid: And if.. if people have insecurities about certain things especially bellies like we’ll just use bellies as the example. You can … using your hands to move things for some people can feel too grabby
Reid: And then… and then they get in their heads whereas you use your forearm to kind of push things or or get access to things it feels more connective less poky and grabby and can let people relax and if you’re using your arm I mean if this is what I make it mean right if I’m using more of my body rather than like we think about hands to push things away.
Reid: But if I’m using my arm to move something it’s also closer to me so it feels like I’m not trying to push things away I’m trying to get to something I want. And that can be really useful tool for people to feel oh you want to be there you want to be with me rather than you’re trying to push things you don’t want away.
Reid: That’s really subtle maybe that’s not what everybody’s thinking but again like if you’re trying to have people feel like you want them or you want to be with them, then maybe your farms can be really useful.
Cathy: Yeah. If they want to learn more they could come to your three-day high performance relationship mastery, where would they go?
Reid: Longest title ever for what’s going to be really great weekend