Do you want to improve your embodiment? Do you want to feel better about yourself? A lot of us want to love ourselves more. We’re told that that will help, but we don’t know how to make the first steps.
When I first started this journey, I didn’t love myself at all in fact I had spent decades learning to hate myself and how to punish myself and push myself constantly. One of the first things I did was to start to pretend to act as if I did love myself. It was really hard but it opened a lot of new doors for me.
So what I’d like you to do is imagine, how would you act if you loved yourself? If you cared about yourself, how would you treat yourself today? It may be a big reach, it was a big reach for me. I had to start with just one or two things a day. Small things. Maybe it was getting up a few minutes early to make myself breakfast, or a cup of coffee that I could enjoy quietly for a few minutes. It was not pushing myself quite that extra mile at work when I was really, really tired and allowing myself to take a break, or maybe allowing myself to go to bed a few minutes earlier.
There’s a lot of different ways we can treat ourselves with love and a lot of never thought. We always think that we’ll finally treat ourselves nice when we’re lovable. If I am just good enough, if I finally beat myself into to submission and I’m finally good enough, I’ll give myself love. The problem with that is it’s kind of like talk to a house plant saying, “House plant as soon as you bloom, I will give you water and I will give you sunshine and until then you don’t get any.” It’s really hard to feel lovable when you don’t treat yourself as lovable, so I encourage you to start acting as if you love yourself.
As hard as that is, just gently, a few minutes a day, act as if you love yourself. When you start doing that you nourish yourself and you start opening up a little bit more, unfurling so to speak. When you act as if you’re lovable you start feeling lovable and you start treating yourself better and you walk through the world in a different way so other people start treating you better too. They can tell that you deserve it. You’ll start finding that you love yourself more and more, the more you practice loving yourself now.
Thank you. I’d love to hear what you think. Please leave comments below. Let me know how you’re acting as if today. Thank you.
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