How can you release resistance to shooting videos?
With Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com and http://www.ThrivingNow.com.
Some of you wrote in and said, “How you’re having resistance to shooting the videos?” I thought I’d offer, if you want it, some tapping to help you get pass the blocks. The hamsters can get really loud and I usually notice that it get loud as when I move in toward in something that can make really a difference. So if it helps, notice that your hamsters are really loud, the resistance is high because this is something that’s one very vulnerable but also it can touch people’s lives so deeply. That’s okay to be awkward at first start, even later I’m often awkward still on the videos. You find a ways that work best for you. For me, I love shooting videos with somebody or when there’s a strong asking for it. So if you like to do some tappin’, come along with me. If not, you can just use this out as affirmations and just repeat the words to you as you breathe at each point. So take a nice, slow, deep breath. Just let yourself settle in your body. It can be help to look around the room because when the resistance is high our survival brain can be activated. There’s a lot about visibility in our survival brain. Many of us come from [inaudible 00:01:10] just to survive by hiding in the bushes and be in still. I’m certainly from that I’ve had a lot of training to be quiet and not make spectacle of myself.
So if you’re afraid of making spectacle or you’re just nervous about showing yourself, realize it’s okay. If you actually look around the room and notice that there’s no danger right here, right now and you had a lot of people that love and support you, that can help you move forward. And also, really love noticing that I can help people that my voice, my vulnerability can help people move forward.
It’s sometimes not the glamorous posh videos that make the difference. It’s someone saying, “Me, too. I’ve been there, I may still be there and I care about you and we can get through this together.” That can make a huge difference for people. You don’t have to be miles ahead of someone to help them. You just have to be a half step ahead or even walking beside them along the path. Take another nice, slow, deep breath. Notice how the chair you’re sitting in right now or whatever you’re sitting is supporting you. That your feet rest on the floor and notice that you’re supported. Gravity and earth and universe or whatever you want to call it that’s [inaudible 00:02:31], you’re okay right now. Let’s take one more deep breath and will do some tapping.
You’re starting the karate chop point. “Even though I have this resistance to shooting videos” and you repeat it back, “I really am okay. Even though I have this resistance to shooting videos, my body feels heavy and tight. I’m open to relaxing and allowing to be self-expressed. Even though this feels really frightening, I care about my message and I care about the people I’ve serve. So I’m willing to go forward even though the hamsters are really loud.”
Go to the top of the head, “I have this resistance to shooting videos.”
Eyebrow, “I don’t want to shoot these videos.”
Side of the eye, “You can’t make me shoot videos.”
Under the eye, “There’s no way I’m shooting these videos.”
Under the nose, “I can never get it right.”
Chin, “And things aren’t perfect for my videos.”
Collarbone, “I’m not pretty enough. I’m not handsome enough.”
Top of the head, “I’m not polish enough.”
Eyebrow, “The background noise is too loud.”
Side of the eye, “I don’t have a good space to do this.”
Under the eye, “I don’t know how to edit them.”
Under the nose, “My brain kind of freezes up.”
Chin, “And it’s hard to figure out how to upload them.”
Collarbone, “Part of me wants to do it another day.
Under the arm, “When the resistance isn’t so high.”
Top of the head, “But the truth is people need my message right now.”
Eyebrow, “And the resistance probably won’t go away.”
Side of the eye, “What if I can shoot these videos with this resistance?”
Under the eye, “What if I can make a difference even though I’m afraid?”
Under the nose, “I can my voice with the world.”
Chin, “All my yah buts are okay.”
Collarbone, “I get to have my yah buts.”
Under the arm, “And I get to shoot these videos anyway.”
Top of the head, “I want to help people and I can choose to focus on that.”
Take a nice deep breath.
We all have yah buts, we all have reasons why we shouldn’t something now, we should do it later. And when we listen to them all the time we never move forward. I really encourage you to get out there and make your videos. They can be awkward, they can be uncomfortable, it doesn’t matter. People still need to hear you. People want to be healed. But they’re stuck, they’re afraid, they don’t it’s safe to move forward. And you role modelling to move forward even though you’re scared and uncomfortable, that is a gift you give them. I really hope you make your videos and get out there and spread your word and make a spectacle of yourself.
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