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Cathy And Reid Are Talking About Leadership and Self-Care

Cathy And Reid Are Talking About Leadership and Self-Care https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8fVpCYCzyUI Reid: Hello Facebook! It’s Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/. Cathy: And Cathy Vartuli from https://theintimacydojo.com/ Reid: And we've got sand castle things going on right behind us. We are in Monterey doing a work weekend recuperating from camp and this is uh this is a little Sex Ed business video because Cathy has been, been talking about leadership and self-care. So [...]

By |2018-07-20T05:18:57+00:00May 15, 2019|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

If You Feel Shame For Needing Anything, How Do You Identify Your Needs?

If You Feel Shame For Needing Anything, How Do You Identify Your Needs? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tu0gVCUPm5U Cathy: Someone wrote it and said, “How do you go about finding out what your specific needs are when you feel ashamed for needing things at all from anybody else? For example I don't feel comfortable with asking for a glass of water while visiting your friend much as asking someone to listen to me or [...]

By |2017-09-24T22:39:43+00:00March 28, 2019|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

I Don’t Feel Good Enough About Myself, What Should I Do ?

I Don't Feel Good Enough About Myself, What Should I Do ? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2Q7-grASFg Cathy: Someone wrote, oh. You want to finish picking your teeth? Reid: No, I’m good. Oh! Oh! We started. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, I really been trying really hard to be a good fit for someone else because I don't feel good enough about myself when that doesn't work I feel devastated. I don't feel [...]

By |2017-09-19T05:04:01+00:00December 19, 2018|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

What Is Voyeurism?

What Is Voyeurism https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r8Qe_OiFAic Cathy: Reid at a recently play party you shared something about voyeurism. That I thought was really powerful I was wondering if you’d share it for the camera. This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/ Cathy, what is a play party? Cathy: A play party is basically an orgy. It’s a space where people can go and have sex or watch that [...]

By |2017-09-19T04:40:57+00:00December 7, 2018|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

When Do You Initiate The Safer Sex Elevator Speech Especially With Oral Herpes?

When Do You Initiate The Safer Sex Elevator Speech Especially With Oral Herpes? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mp93kvDFR3Y Cathy: I'm curious about, when to initiate the http://reidaboutsex.com/safersexelevatorspeech/? It sounds like it comes before kissing especially for including oral herpes in this discussion but I don't usually talk about sex until I know someone's interested which I frequently find out by kissing them. I won't like the idea and want to incorporate it but not [...]

By |2018-07-20T05:47:17+00:00November 7, 2018|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

Is Speaking Up A Problem You Deal With?

Is Speaking Up A Problem You Deal With? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04lyVW_A1dA Cathy: Do you ever have problems speaking up? Reid: Nope! Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Nope. Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/. I just want to keep yelling the whole video. I’m so sorry. You’re so patient for listening and watching. Cathy: Yeah, they really are. Oh, so we’re just.. we’re talking about saying No to flirting. Reid: Yup. Cathy: [...]

By |2017-09-19T01:42:33+00:00September 24, 2018|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

If Someone Powerfully Said No To Your Flirting, How Do You Handle It?

If Someone Powerfully Said No To Your Flirting, How Do You Handle It?     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Axt4dz8RkKo Cathy: How can you deal with someone say ‘No’ to flirting in a powerful way? This is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com/.Cathy: How can you deal with someone say ‘No’ to flirting in a powerful way? This is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com/. Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com/. Cathy: And how do you deal with it [...]

By |2017-09-18T06:05:51+00:00September 21, 2018|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

How To Be Self-Expressed But Not Shower Emotion All Over Others?

How To Be Self-Expressed But Not Shower Emotion All Over Others? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z6ZPLK80LbY Cathy: When you’re trying to be self-expressed, how do you not drip your emotions all over the other person? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.IntimacyDojo.com/ Explain your terms. Cathy: So we talk often about being self-expressed and have your emotions and being able to share like hey I’m disappointed, or hey that [...]

By |2018-07-20T05:55:13+00:00August 20, 2018|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

They Say I’m Doing Poly Wrong.. What Should I Do?

They Say I'm Doing Poly Wrong.. What Should I Do? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDi6uVts238&feature=youtu.be Cathy: What do you do if you're shame for not being poly enough or doing poly wrong? This is Matie Fricker from http://www.SelfServeToys.com/. Hunter Riley who works at Self-Serve and has http://www.HunterRileySexEducation.com/ and I am Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/. So what have you noticed about people being poly-shamed? Matie: It happened to me, maybe [...]

By |2017-08-28T16:25:34+00:00March 19, 2018|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

When Is It Somebody’s Business And When Is It Not?

What are the things you're allowed to share and when? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Privacy. What you're allowed to share, what you're not allowed to share, when it is appropriate. This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheintimacyDojo.com/. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/. Reid: Using a real life example. Boom! Cathy: So, Reid was just looking something up on his phone while we were shooting [...]

By |2017-05-12T17:51:04+00:00March 1, 2018|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch|