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Is Speaking Up A Problem You Deal With?

Is Speaking Up A Problem You Deal With? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04lyVW_A1dA Cathy: Do you ever have problems speaking up? Reid: Nope! Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Nope. Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/. I just want to keep yelling the whole video. I’m so sorry. You’re so patient for listening and watching. Cathy: Yeah, they really are. Oh, so we’re just.. we’re talking about saying No to flirting. Reid: Yup. Cathy: [...]

By |2017-09-19T01:42:33+00:00September 24, 2018|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

If Someone Powerfully Said No To Your Flirting, How Do You Handle It?

If Someone Powerfully Said No To Your Flirting, How Do You Handle It?     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Axt4dz8RkKo Cathy: How can you deal with someone say ‘No’ to flirting in a powerful way? This is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com/.Cathy: How can you deal with someone say ‘No’ to flirting in a powerful way? This is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com/. Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com/. Cathy: And how do you deal with it [...]

By |2017-09-18T06:05:51+00:00September 21, 2018|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

How To Be Self-Expressed But Not Shower Emotion All Over Others?

How To Be Self-Expressed But Not Shower Emotion All Over Others? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z6ZPLK80LbY Cathy: When you’re trying to be self-expressed, how do you not drip your emotions all over the other person? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.IntimacyDojo.com/ Explain your terms. Cathy: So we talk often about being self-expressed and have your emotions and being able to share like hey I’m disappointed, or hey that [...]

By |2018-07-20T05:55:13+00:00August 20, 2018|Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

They Say I’m Doing Poly Wrong.. What Should I Do?

They Say I'm Doing Poly Wrong.. What Should I Do? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com.   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kDi6uVts238&feature=youtu.be Cathy: What do you do if you're shame for not being poly enough or doing poly wrong? This is Matie Fricker from http://www.SelfServeToys.com/. Hunter Riley who works at Self-Serve and has http://www.HunterRileySexEducation.com/ and I am Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/. So what have you noticed about people being poly-shamed? Matie: It happened to me, maybe [...]

By |2017-08-28T16:25:34+00:00March 19, 2018|Dating, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame|

When Is It Somebody’s Business And When Is It Not?

What are the things you're allowed to share and when? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Privacy. What you're allowed to share, what you're not allowed to share, when it is appropriate. This is Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheintimacyDojo.com/. Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/. Reid: Using a real life example. Boom! Cathy: So, Reid was just looking something up on his phone while we were shooting [...]

By |2017-05-12T17:51:04+00:00March 1, 2018|Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch|

How Do I Get My Lover Have Sex With Me Again?

What do you do if your partner or lover doesn't want to have sex? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: So someone wrote in and said you talked about how to get my wife to have sex with me again program, has it been released yet? And can you tell us how to get this to work? This is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com/. Reid: Cathy [...]

By |2017-05-12T15:41:21+00:00February 8, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch|

Is It All About Looks When You’re Dating?

How much do looks matter when you're out there dating? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: We did a video a few months ago about status, how people have different status something you should consider when you’re dating. Someone replied and said forget status it’s all about looks. This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Reid: Handsome is the day’s long, this is Cathy Vartuli from [...]

By |2017-05-12T15:40:23+00:00February 5, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch|

Is It Ever Your Fault If You’re INCEL (Involuntarily Celibate)?

Should you blame yourself if you aren't ever connecting sexually? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: We had a video on incels, people that are voluntarily celibate. And someone wrote in and said, white male that are incel are very pathetic, they belong in a group of men that are sought after by women. So your inability to get a decent woman is all caps [...]

By |2017-05-12T15:38:58+00:00February 2, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How Do I Reclaim My Sexuality After Trauma?

If you've shut down due to trauma or traumatic experiences, how do you open up again? How can you embrace your sexuality? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, how do I go about regaining self-ownership of my body and sexual aspect after a trauma? I’m a 46 year old divorced gay man who had an incest in military in sexual [...]

By |2017-05-12T15:37:35+00:00January 31, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How To Deal with People Who Say That There’s Something Wrong about You Because You’re Bigger?

If you're fat or bigger, what do you do if someone says there's something wrong with you for being larger? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in in response to a video that Ashley Man did together about being bigger and being sexual. And they said, your fatties need to recognize that you're mentally ill. You over eat because there's something about you [...]

By |2017-05-12T15:36:24+00:00January 24, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|