Shame

Cathy And Reid Are Talking About Leadership and Self-Care https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8fVpCYCzyUI Reid: Hello Facebook! It’s Reid Mihalko from http://reidaboutsex.com/. Cathy: And Cathy Vartuli from https://theintimacydojo.com/ Reid: And we've got sand castle things going on right behind us. We are in Monterey doing a work weekend recuperating from camp and this is uh this is a little Sex Ed business video because Cathy has been, been talking about leadership and self-care. So [...]

If You Feel Shame For Needing Anything, How Do You Identify Your Needs? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tu0gVCUPm5U Cathy: Someone wrote it and said, “How do you go about finding out what your specific needs are when you feel ashamed for needing things at all from anybody else? For example I don't feel comfortable with asking for a glass of water while visiting your friend much as asking someone to listen to me or [...]

I Don't Feel Good Enough About Myself, What Should I Do ? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T2Q7-grASFg Cathy: Someone wrote, oh. You want to finish picking your teeth? Reid: No, I’m good. Oh! Oh! We started. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, I really been trying really hard to be a good fit for someone else because I don't feel good enough about myself when that doesn't work I feel devastated. I don't feel [...]

What Is Voyeurism https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r8Qe_OiFAic Cathy: Reid at a recently play party you shared something about voyeurism. That I thought was really powerful I was wondering if you’d share it for the camera. This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/ Cathy, what is a play party? Cathy: A play party is basically an orgy. It’s a space where people can go and have sex or watch that [...]

When Do You Initiate The Safer Sex Elevator Speech Especially With Oral Herpes? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mp93kvDFR3Y Cathy: I'm curious about, when to initiate the http://reidaboutsex.com/safersexelevatorspeech/? It sounds like it comes before kissing especially for including oral herpes in this discussion but I don't usually talk about sex until I know someone's interested which I frequently find out by kissing them. I won't like the idea and want to incorporate it but not [...]

Is Speaking Up A Problem You Deal With? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04lyVW_A1dA Cathy: Do you ever have problems speaking up? Reid: Nope! Cathy: This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Nope. Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com/. I just want to keep yelling the whole video. I’m so sorry. You’re so patient for listening and watching. Cathy: Yeah, they really are. Oh, so we’re just.. we’re talking about saying No to flirting. Reid: Yup. Cathy: [...]

If Someone Powerfully Said No To Your Flirting, How Do You Handle It?     https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Axt4dz8RkKo Cathy: How can you deal with someone say ‘No’ to flirting in a powerful way? This is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com/.Cathy: How can you deal with someone say ‘No’ to flirting in a powerful way? This is Reid Mihalko from http://ReidAboutSex.com/. Reid: Cathy Vartuli from http://TheIntimacyDojo.com/. Cathy: And how do you deal with it [...]

How To Be Self-Expressed But Not Shower Emotion All Over Others? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z6ZPLK80LbY Cathy: When you’re trying to be self-expressed, how do you not drip your emotions all over the other person? This is Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from the http://www.IntimacyDojo.com/ Explain your terms. Cathy: So we talk often about being self-expressed and have your emotions and being able to share like hey I’m disappointed, or hey that [...]