Shame

Is It Ever Your Fault If You’re INCEL (Involuntarily Celibate)?

Should you blame yourself if you aren't ever connecting sexually? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: We had a video on incels, people that are voluntarily celibate. And someone wrote in and said, white male that are incel are very pathetic, they belong in a group of men that are sought after by women. So your inability to get a decent woman is all caps [...]

By |2017-05-12T15:38:58+00:00February 2, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How Do I Reclaim My Sexuality After Trauma?

If you've shut down due to trauma or traumatic experiences, how do you open up again? How can you embrace your sexuality? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in and said, how do I go about regaining self-ownership of my body and sexual aspect after a trauma? I’m a 46 year old divorced gay man who had an incest in military in sexual [...]

By |2017-05-12T15:37:35+00:00January 31, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How To Deal with People Who Say That There’s Something Wrong about You Because You’re Bigger?

If you're fat or bigger, what do you do if someone says there's something wrong with you for being larger? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Someone wrote in in response to a video that Ashley Man did together about being bigger and being sexual. And they said, your fatties need to recognize that you're mentally ill. You over eat because there's something about you [...]

By |2017-05-12T15:36:24+00:00January 24, 2018|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

If I Come On Her Pussy, Will She Get Pregnant?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1v21SDnRBHk Cathy: Another question from the viewer. If I pull out is it okay if I cum on the pussy and just stick it back in. This is Reid from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/ Reid: Cathy Vartuli from TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: Oh, Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com/. Reid: Yeah, we did this on the last video. It’s okay. You all know that I’m Reid, you know that’s Cathy. Ei, we’re good. What’s not good is [...]

What If My Partner Doesn’t Want To Sleep Over After Sex?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_si1nghPrsk Cathy: We have a wonderful viewer who write in and said that she loved our video on when your partner doesn’t want to sleep with you meaning sexual sleep with you but she said you know I love sleeping after the date like after we have sex. I love when my partner wants to sleep over and I am dating someone right now, he doesn’t want to spend the [...]

I Miss Giving My HSV Positive Partner Oral… Is There Anything I Can Do?

If you have Herpes, do you need to stop having oral sex with your partner? Find out with Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo and Reid Mihalko and http://www.ReidAboutSex.com. Cathy: Hi guys! My wife has HSV 2 but I don’t I don’t have one or two we’ve been 30 years. I kinda wish I could get infected because I miss giving her oral sex please keep up the good work. This is Reid Mihalko [...]

By |2017-05-10T20:19:28+00:00December 19, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

How Can A Shy Introverted Guy Encourage Women To Initiate Interactions?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IDkq4XS2ynM Cathy: One gentleman wrote and said how can shy introverts like myself encourage women to lead interactions. I think this is true for whatever gender you might be. It’s really nice to know how you can encourage other people to approach you if you’re shy introvert. Reid: This is Cathy Vartuli from https://TheIntimacyDojo.com/. Cathy: And Reid Mihalko from https://ReidAboutSex.com/. Reid: I’m geeky about this kind of content. I’m an [...]

Is It Okay To Masturbate To Someone?

Can you fantasize about someone when you masturbate? What is the ethics around this? With Reid Mihalko from http://www.ReidAboutSex.com and Cathy Vartuli from htto://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com. Cathy: So one of our amazing viewers wrote and said, it is okay if I fantasize, they’re talking to you, fantasize about you when I masturbate? Reid: I didn’t see this comment. Cathy: I haven’t share it with you yet. Reid: Oh my goodness. Cathy: You [...]

By |2017-05-10T17:17:26+00:00December 13, 2017|Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

What Do You Do When The Chair Breaks Under You?

There is a fear, especially for bigger folks, that chairs and benches won't support them. What do you do when that happens? Cathy Vartuli from http://www.TheIntimacyDojo.com shares and experience. Cathy: So, I'm at Sex Geek Summer Camp. I'm hanging out and it's the day after we're chilling. I sat down at the picnic bench and I wanted to lay down because Reid was taking a dunk. Reid: A dunk, not [...]

By |2017-05-10T17:05:57+00:00December 10, 2017|Body Image, Dating, Energy, Flirting, Jealousy, Relationship Skills, Sex Geeks, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

If I Lust In My Mind… Am I Committing Adultery?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jj0pHKMY9LY Reid: Trigger warning. There’s Bible quote coming’. Cathy: Yeah, we get a lot of comments, we love the comments and this. Comment with questions you guys sent in. Someone said, but I say unto you that whoever looketh other woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. So he felt like we were talking about…just us talking about it is wrong. Reid: Okay. [...]