How To Be Better Prepared for a Conference

Conferences, workshops and events can be a blast! And they can be overwhelming and leave you exhausted and worn out. Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from share how to have a better conference! Cathy: Do you want to have a better conference? Reid: Yeah.  I totally do.  Most of my conference experiences are haphazard and hit or miss.  This would be really useful information.  Tell me more. Cathy: This [...]

By |2016-01-07T09:38:56+00:00July 17, 2014|Collaborators, Event|

Trauma and Sexuality

Cathy Vartuli from and Ashley Manta from share how trauma can effect sexual self-expression, and what you can do to support yourself or others in healing and reclaiming your sexuality. Cathy: Hi everyone today we are talking about trauma and sexuality. A lot of people are traumatized. There is an estimated one in three females by the time that they are eighteen have had some type of sexual [...]

By |2016-01-20T05:50:11+00:00June 14, 2014|Body Image, Collaborators, Shame, Touch, Trauma|

Dealing With People Who Cut You Off, Or Won’t Stop Talking

Join relationship expert Reid Mihalko from and Cathy Vartuli from as they share what to do, whether your lead workshops or in your personal life, when people cut you off or won't stop talking. Cathy: Are you ever in a situation where all of a sudden someone will ... Reid: Cut you off, and then keeps talking? Cathy: Yes. Reid: Yeah. Happens all the time. Cathy: (Laughs) It can be difficult [...]

By |2015-12-22T21:50:57+00:00June 12, 2014|Collaborators, Dating, Flirting, Relationship Skills|

The Big O, and Goal Oriented Sex…How They Can Get In The Way of Deep Intimacy

Rather than focusing on the big O as a sign that you did a good job...try focusing on the connection and the joy. When we take the pressure off, and don't shame each other for not "getting there", we can be more present and enjoy ourselves a lot more. Cathy Vartuli from and Ashely Manta from share. Cathy: If you read the latest addition of Cosmo, you'll see a [...]

By |2016-01-06T08:48:42+00:00June 4, 2014|Collaborators, Dating, Relationship Skills, Touch|

When You Fat Shame Yourself

When you fat shame yourself, you send a message to others that they aren't ok, either. Our culture teaches us to put ourselves down, but is that loving for ourselves or to the friends around us? Cathy Vartuli from and Ashley Manta from share. Cathy: Hi, everyone. Today, we're talking about fat shaming again and what happens when you start shaming yourself around other people. I'm Cathy Vartuli from [...]

By |2016-01-07T09:35:12+00:00June 2, 2014|Body Image, Collaborators, Shame|

Feeling Guilty For Not Having It Together As An Educator/Coach and Feminist

If you're a feminist or an educator, you may want to be strong and solid about accepting yourself and being accepting. But we all have bad days. Do you ever feel bad about feeling bad?? Cathy Vartuli from and Ashley Manta from share. Cathy: Do you ever feel bad because you're feeling bad? Especially if you're a sex educator or feminist you think that ... you're out there [...]

By |2016-01-08T05:56:16+00:00May 30, 2014|Body Image, Collaborators, Shame|

Does This Panel Make Me Look Fat: Body Image and Sexuality Live from CatalystCon East!

Size and body image can have profound and sometimes debilitating effects on a person's sexual self-esteem and self-expression. Internalized shame and feelings of inadequacy are often super-charged by the constant stream of external judgment, a barrage of media and marketing pressure (individuals are exposed to an estimated 300,000 negative images or comments about weight each year), and socially acceptable prejudice against those who don't conform. People of size can be [...]

By |2016-01-05T10:44:54+00:00May 27, 2014|Body Image, Collaborators|

Where Sex Meets “Isms”: From Shame to Self-Expression

This panel was presented at the 2013 Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit in DC, by emotional freedom coach Cathy Vartuli  from, 2013 EXXXOTICA BBW Female Performer of the Year Kelly Shibari from, iconic transgender filmmaker Buck Angel, sensuality guru Elle "Lady Cheeky" Chase from and, and outspoken sex blogger N'Jaila Rhee from Each person's sexual self-expression is unique, and requires courage and self-knowledge to [...]

By |2016-01-19T13:53:27+00:00November 27, 2013|Collaborators|

Do You Want To Spend the Night with Buck Angel?!

If you'd like to meet one of America's cutting edge film makers, inspirational speakers, and sex positive activists, join us for an intimate evening on Thursday September 27th at the Dish for a night you won't soon forget! If you're coming to Beyond Vanilla to Buck's amazing keynote, beat everyone to the punch by attending our exclusive kick-off event! Then help spread the word to get even MORE people [...]

By |2013-02-20T22:17:03+00:00September 3, 2012|Collaborators, Sex Geeks|

About Reid Mihalko

If Dr. Ruth and Jon Stewart had a son, that son would be Reid Mihalko… Reid is one of the only male sex and relationship experts touring the country today who appeals to audiences of all ages, orientations, and backgrounds. Reid has appeared on the Emmy award-winning talk show Montel, Fox News, VH1’s Scott Baio is 45 and Single, Showtime’s Penn & Teller’s Bulls**t!, Canada’s The Sex Files and SexTV, [...]

By |2012-07-11T22:03:15+00:00July 11, 2012|Collaborators, Sex Geeks|